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10 Random Things I think you should know........

Sooooo.....it has been a while since I've written. My mom passed away, May 24th. As with my brother who passed away September 5, 2015, death brings enlightenment to me.  I've been reflecting and thinking over rhe past 8 weeks. But I know there are some things I need to share with you all. And it's Summertime!! So I feel like it is a great time to sit and  write.

Anywho.....I created this little list (which I am putting into longer form to be released, later) I wanna share with you all. Soooooo, here it is.

1. Begin each day with prayer or meditation. How you start your day plays a major role in setting the tone for the rest of it. Prayers/meditation can create a positive aura, which can create a positive day for you.

2. Self care. Take care of your appearance. Care for your skin, hair, and hygiene. Pamper yourself. Find hair and skin products that work for your skin/hair type and tone. Take care of your hygiene.  Brush and wash. Bathe/shower. Just cleanse yourself. I stay away from body washes and bubble baths that use deodorants and fragrances. They tend to irritate my yoni  (vagina). Find what works for you and makes you feel good.

3. Show kindness and you'll receive kindness. Not specifically and necessarily from the person you extends it to. It's called pay it forward. What you put out there, you'll get back.

4. Treat others how you want to be treated. Show others how you want them to treat you with your actions and words.

5. Always try your hardest and do your best. Your name is yours. What you put out there shows others a part of who you are. Be confident in whatever you do. Give your whole  effort or don't do it.

6. About body hair......
Shave if you wanna.....
Don't shave if you don't wanna.....
Whatever you decide is a personal choice. Makke it your choice cause you feel good about it, not cause others want it for you.

7. "NO" means NO always!! No matter  how far you have gone.....at anytime....you can say NO! With that being said, be wise and careful of the positions/ situations  you place yourself in. Do what feels right for YOU. Don't let peer pressure or pressure from a partner get you to do something you aren't ready to or don't wanna do. And never ever feel like you're obligated to have sex or you owe anyone sex. Your body is your body. Care for it.

8. Love is freeing. It is abundant. Overflowing. Infinite. Love will never run out.  Love as much as you wanna. Love as many as you wanna. *When i say love, I do not mean sex*.

9. Monogamy isn't the only relationship dynamic. It is perfectly okay to explore other relationship types. And always remember....We do  not own others.

10. Be a game changer. Listen to your intuition  (gut). Take the risk if you feel it is worth it. It might change your life. Might change the world.

With much love,
Ms. Nicole Rene

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